Today is my birthday. While talking at the end of the day, I remembered a quote from a book. It was new book while I was in college. The author mixes in some philosophy and wisdom in his book. Some of it sunk in.
This one isn’t the one I remembered. It is a longer quote, it is hard to remember. I am so glad to see it again.
- “Do not confuse “duty” with what other people expect of you; they are utterly different. Duty is a debt you owe to yourself to fulfill obligations you have assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anything from years of patient work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is self-respect.
But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants “just a few minutes of your time, please — this won’t take long.” Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time — and squawk for more!
So learn to say No — and to be rude about it when necessary.
Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you.
(This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don’t do it because it is “expected” of you.)”
Robert A. Heinlein – Time Enough for Love
I can remember reading this book several times. I took it to sea with me several times. No book stores, so you pick you personal library carefully. I have lived like this for years, without remembering this quote. I say no when I have to. Sometimes that surprises people.
When I agree on a commission, project, evil plan, event or convention. It is my choice and I am very serious about doing whatever it takes to make it work. I do not make these choices frivolously or without thought.
All of these are things I am very proud of.
Recently, several friend chipped in and bought a Colossal for a friend. It was second hand. He showed up at his local game store to buy hobby supplies and was leaving. The manager remembered and gave him the box with the Colossal. The note said “from the Titans”. One of the best days I have had in a long time.
Life has beat me down of late. Even in those times, doing these things is my source of positive waves. We all have our own motivations. It is my something to do.
Everyone isn’t the same, sometimes it is hard to me to remember that. I am sorry that I forget this. Sometimes I expect more from other than they can give. I shouldn’t judge other by my standards.
Well, enough of that. I know a lot of you have voted. If you haven’t please do so…
Until next time,
Just do it..